I finally finished reading Carly’s book. It took awhile for me to finish it. I dreaded reading some of the pages because it’s so horrible what she went through. No wonder she is angry, frustrated and so exhausted. I was angry, frustrated and exhausted just by reading the book.
My heart broke, I cannot believe what little Carly had to endure – stares, emotional and body pain and medical treatments – and have endured well into adulthood.
I identified a lot with Carly, especially in her teenage years. I was kind of worried about my weight, maybe I just want attention and/or fishing for compliments. A friend was sick of hearing it and suggested to shut up or do something about it (in a nutshell). I had friends that were insecure about their appearances too – small boobs, frizzy hair, buck tooth, flat nose, etc. So from personal experience, most teenage girls do go through appearance insecurities like Carly. I do understand that Carly’s was far worse than any of our concerns because she has a debilitating medical condition.
Just like Carly, I went through a stage in life wondering who I am – what am I about, what am I to do and why am I put in this world for?
Say Hello is just that. Carly unravelling, embracing and loving her being. She found pride. She found her voice. She found her tribe. (Not in any particular order.)
I suggest the book should be rewritten for elementary schools and be part of the syllabus. In high school, students should create plays from the chapters of their choosing. Forget Shakespeare. Forget David Williamson. (Sorry Mr Williamson).
We fall for all this awareness BS on social media. We always tag each other and upload B&W glamour photos of ourselves to create “awareness”.
Say Hello is a great awareness and educational resource. You will learn terms like microaggression and ableism. It is full of information about how you can actually help people with disability written by a person with disability.
Also, a lot of these awareness and fundraising initiatives are actually NOT ran by disabled people themselves. These charities see disability as a problem, objects of pity … it doesn’t promote disability pride and acceptance.
If you want to really make a difference? Start by buying Carly’s book Say Hello.
Author: Carly Findlay
Number Of Pages: 336
Published: 29th January 2019
Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
Country of Publication: AU
Dimensions (cm): 23.5 x 15.5 x 2.7
Weight (kg): 0.48